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SLIPS AND HUMAN NATURE |
The following was published in the A.A. Grapevine, January 1947. We are grateful to Jim B, our friend in Canada, who has collected much of this material and is so generous in sharing it.
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SLIPS AND HUMAN NATURE |
The mystery of slips is not so deep as it may appear.
While it does seem odd that an alcoholic, who has restored himself to a
dignified place among his fellowmen and continues dry for years, should suddenly
throw all his happiness overboard and find himself again in mortal peril of
drowning in liquor, often the reason is simple.
People are inclined to say, "there is something peculiar about alcoholics. They
seem to be well, yet at any moment they may turn back to their old ways. You can
never be sure."
This is largely twaddle. The alcoholic is a sick person. Under the technique of
Alcoholics Anonymous he gets well -- that is to say, his disease is arrested.
There is nothing unpredictable about him any more than there is
anything weird about a person who has arrested diabetes.
Let's get it clear, once and for all, that alcoholics are human beings. Then we
can safeguard ourselves intelligently against most slips.
In both professional and lay circles, there is a tendency to label everything
that an alcoholic may do as "alcoholic behavior." The truth is, it is simple
human nature.
It is very wrong to consider any of the personality traits observed in liquor
addicts as peculiar to the alcoholic. Emotional and mental quirks are classified
as symptoms of alcoholism merely because alcoholics have them, yet
those same quirks can be found among non-alcoholics too. Actually they are
symptoms of mankind!
Of course, the alcoholic himself tends to think of himself as different,
somebody special, with unique tendencies and reactions. Many psychiatrists,
doctors, and therapists carry the same idea to extremes in their analyses and
treatment of alcoholics.
Sometimes they make a complicated mystery of a condition which is found in all
human beings, whether they drink whiskey or buttermilk.
To be sure, alcoholism, like every other disease, does manifest itself in some
unique ways. It does have a number of baffling peculiarities which differ from
those of all other diseases.
At the same time, any of the symptoms and much of the behavior of alcoholism are
closely paralleled and even duplicated in other diseases.
The slip is a relapse! It is a relapse that occurs after the alcoholic has
stopped drinking and started on the A.A. program of recovery. Slips usually
occur in the early states of the alcoholic's A.A. indoctrination, before he
has had time to learn enough of the A.A. techniques and A.A. philosophy to give
him a solid footing. But slips may also occur after an alcoholic has been a
member of A.A. for many months or even several years, and it is in this kind,
above all, that often finds a marked similarity between the alcoholic's behavior
and that of "normal" victims of other diseases.
No one is startled by the fact that relapses are not uncommon among arrested
tubercular patients. But here is a startling fact -- the cause is often the same
as the cause which leads to slips for the alcoholic.
It happens this way: When a tubercular patient recovers sufficiently to be
released from the sanitarium, the doctor gives him careful instructions for the
way he is to live when he gets home. He must drink plenty of milk. He must
refrain from smoking. He must obey other stringent rules.
For the first several months, perhaps for several years, the patient follows
directions. But as his strength increases and he feels fully recovered, he
becomes slack. There may come the night when he decides he can stay up until ten
o'clock. When he does this, nothing untoward happens. Soon he is disregarding
the directions given him when he left the sanitarium. Eventually he has a
relapse.
The same tragedy can be found in cardiac cases. After the heart attack, the
patient is put on a strict rests schedule. Frightened, he naturally follows
directions obediently for a long time. He, too, goes to bed early, avoids
exercise such as walking upstairs, quits smoking, and leads a Spartan life.
Eventually, though there comes a day, after he has been feeling good for months
or several years, when he feels he has regained his strength, and has also
recovered from his fright. If the elevator is out of repair one day, he walks up
the three flights of stairs. Or he decides to go to a party -- or do just a
little smoking -- or take a cocktail or two. If no serious aftereffects follow
the first departure from the rigorous schedule prescribed, he may try it again,
until he suffers a relapse.
In both cardiac and tubercular cases, the acts which led to the relapses were
preceded by wrong thinking. The patient in each case rationalized himself out of
a sense of his own perilous reality. He deliberately turned away from his
knowledge of the fact that he had been the victim of a serious disease. He grew
overconfident. He decided he didn't have to follow directions.
Now that is precisely what happens with the alcoholic -- the arrested alcoholic,
or the alcoholic in A.A. who has a slip. Obviously, he decides to take a drink
again some time before he actually takes it. He starts thinking wrong before he
actually embarks on the course that leads to a slip.
There is no reason to charge the slip to alcoholic behavior or a second heart
attack to cardiac behavior. The alcoholic slip is not a symptom of a psychotic
condition. There's nothing screwy about it at all. The patient
simply didn't follow directions.
For the alcoholic, A.A. offers the directions. A vital factor, or ingredient of
the preventive, especially for the alcoholic, is sustained emotion. The
alcoholic who learns some of the techniques or the mechanics of A.A. but misses
the philosophy or the spirit may get tired off following directions -- not
because he is alcoholic, but because he is human. Rules and regulations irk
almost anyone, because they are restraining, prohibitive, negative. The
philosophy of A.A. however, is positive and provides ample sustained emotion --
a sustained desire to follow directions voluntarily.
In any event, the psychology of the alcoholic is not as different as some people
try to make it. The disease has certain physical differences, yes, and the
alcoholic has problems peculiar to him, perhaps, in that he has been put on the
defensive and consequently has developed frustrations. But in many instances,
there is no more reason to be talking about "the alcoholic mind" than there is
to try to describe something called "the cardiac mind" or the "TB mind."
I think we'll help the alcoholic more if we can first recognize that he is
primarily a human being -- afflicted with human nature.
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