| Writer reveals bridge over troubled Waters |
© Irish Independent - Dublin, Ireland
John Waters has not been to AA in 18 months and he may not go back, writes Barry
Egan
By Barry Egan
Sunday November 18 2007
Richard Harris used to quip he had formed a new group called
Alcoholics-Unanimous. If you don't feel like a drink, you ring another member
and he comes over to twist your arm. The Irish Times columnist and author John
Waters has not been to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting in over 18 months.
In an interview for today's Sunday Independent LIFE magazine, Waters says he has
gone through longish spells when he doesn't attend and then goes back again.
"This time it has gone on longer than usual," he told me.
"And I don't know whether I'm going to go back or not," he adds.
And the term 'alcoholic' does not sit well with him.
He says: "I'm not an alcoholic at all. I don't think of myself in those terms.
"It's like if you say you're religious, you're forever on your knees, bating
your breast. And if you say you're an alcoholic it means you have a bottle
wrapped in brown paper in your pocket. So these terms are not helpful. They are
actually quite unproductive."
The last time John had a drink was July 29, 1990. At 3pm. A glass of white wine
with friends in Balbriggan.
The writer remembers one evening "a fairly well-known writer" was in Waters'
house when he got home from work.
Waters' girlfriend at the time had, he says, some anxieties about his drinking
and this character, remembers Waters, "was kind of well-known for his own voyage
in this particular area".
He kept following Waters around the house and trying to engage him in
conversation about drink.
At one point, he locked himself in the bathroom to get away from him. Then he
suggested they go for a drink.
"So I went out with him but I refused to drink, because he'd be able to see me
in laboratory conditions," Waters laughs.
"He brought me to my first AA meeting. I found it interesting at the time, but
it didn't really stick, and I went back drinking.
"A couple of years later I decided on my own that I had to stop but I hadn't
scooped up enough of the AA picture to make me feel that it was worth going back
to. So I stopped on my own," he says, in an interview to promote his deeply
personal book Lapsed Agnostic about John, God and alcoholism.
"But I really had no understanding of what the process is. It is not actually
just leaving down the glass. There is a whole reconstruction thing that needs to
happen.
"You do need to connect with people who have similar experiences because your
whole emotional structure is effected.
"It is completely left raw and unprotected in the absence of drink.
"So you have to find a way of dealing with all the things that come up," he
says.
Something that came up that day during the interview in Dun Laoghaire was
Waters' sex symbol status.
His smile widened when I told him that several women I know consider him a
thinking woman's crumpet -- not least when The Irish Times hottie is pouting on
Questions & Answers about fathers' rights, Dublin 4, and the famine.
"I'd much prefer people to think that of me rather than 'he is obsessed with the
famine!'," he jokes.
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